Jay Carter, Author at The Total Wellness Doc

What if your Health Failed you…. the Importance of a Support System

What would happen if your health failed you?

The importance of a Support System

The formal definition of a support system is a network of personal and professional contacts available to a person or organization for practical or moral support when needed.

My definition a support system are individuals that provide professional or practical assistance to you in times of need.

I have had to rely on my support system quite a bit during some recent health challenges, so I know the subject of support systems all to well.

I have learned that having help is not a sign of weakness or laziness but rather a way to eliminate stress, allow your body to heal and when I am healthy be more productive to do my main jobs.

What would you do if tomorrow you were bed ridden and could not go to work, pick up your children, or fix your own meals ?

Do you have the support systems in your life to survive or even flourish?

The end of March 2010 I spent 4 days in labor at a hospital with sleep only lasting 20 minutes at a time. After the birth I started to hemorrhage and lost enough blood to need to be given fluids. After a few visitors I got a full night's rest. The rest along with the fluids made me feel like a million bucks ………artificially………….. or so I thought compared to how I felt with no sleep. So feeling good I decided I would make the decisions about how long I stayed in the hospital because I was a doctor. So I strong armed them in letting me go home 24 hrs after the birth. What a BIG MISTAKE !!

The first night home I refused help and said I would care for my son all night. My milk was not coming in so me and Joshua were becoming stressed out. To make a long and very painful lesson short for several weeks I contributed to the deterioration of my body and mind by trying to “Stay in Control” and not allowing help.

14 months later I still was not 100% and unfortunately just suffered a miscarriage. But I know this too is in God's plan and His lessons for me.

When you lose your health or have an incident where you are not able to “do it all” having a support system in place is crucial.

After our recent miscarriage just a few phone calls and emails allowed people to fill-in and help with our businesses, classes, lectures, cleaning ,cooking, child care, our emotional and spiritual health, and physical recovery. What a difference this all made for me for getting on the road to Total Wellness!

Now think about your Support Systems… What are they? Next article we will look at how to Set up a Support System before you need it :Tips and Tools to get you through the hard times , Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually.

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Protected: Healing Chronic Illness

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Self Care for Health: Part II Junk in the Trunk

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What is Junk in the Trunk? ….

When a person harbors bad feelings about past circumstances it can result in result in “Junk” in their body. Junk are behaviors, habits, emotional states, and even physiological processes that are not good. Junk in our Trunk can build up from past abuse, abandonment, adultery, deception, trauma, the loss of a loved one, a period of lack, loss of trust and the list goes on. Little or big, awful or horrific terrible things happen and each of us will process it differently. What do I mean by process? The body and brain will take an experience let's call it a seed and grow a tree of emotions, habits, behaviors and real physiological reactions. Here is an example; Kathy * when she was 2 or 3 year old getting potty trained was severely spanked for pooping her pants. This resulted in 45 years of constipation issues.

An Experience is a SEED

This experience (or seed) when she was 2 or 3 developed into a belief which developed into a bodily behavior. Don't believe me ? Stop now and think about an experience you had as a kid that has now resulting in a behavior of yours.

Kelly * was chased by her brothers with dead and living snakes when she was a kid. As a result she is petrified of snakes today. She can not even watch them on TV without freaking out. Her experiences resulted in a tree of Fear of snakes.

A SEED grows into a TREE

Another example from a client Sue * who at the age of two was mentally abandoned by her mother when her mother lost her baby at birth. From the age of 2 years to 3 and half years Sue had physical care but no love or affection from her mother. As a result she developed a series of bad behaviors, poor relationships, and mental disorders that were diagnosed as Post Traumatic Disorder, Bi-Polar, Detachment Disorder, Borderline Disorder and the list goes on all from this experience of abandonment.

YOU CAN GET BETTER

After 10 years of drug addiction, jail and loss of custody of her children Sue was transformed into a healthy happy woman.

Kelly although she doesn't like them can tolerate snakes now.

And Kathy well let's just say she doesn't have a problem going the bathroom any more.

Do you wonder how these woman and hundreds like them after decades of dysfunctional behaviors recovered?

PULLING OUT THE ROOTS

They didn't just identify the seeds they pulled out the roots. Think about it…. did you know a tree cut down but the roots left can eventually grow another tree.

Again my opinion only and you can disagree. I believe psychology looks at the experiences and seeds, identifies, manages behaviors, understands behaviors and symptoms but does not have a tool to PULL OUT THE ROOTS.

My practice and Wellness Coaching doesn't pull out roots either but we do refer to others that do. One seminar I refer clients to is called First Steps to Success. Over 100 clients I have sent through this system all have come out saying how much lighter and healthier they feel. Here are the stories of two clients who attended this seminar and got the roots out:

Andrea* released over 30 lbs in just over 6 weeks after First Steps to Success. It wasn't because she changed the way she ate or dieted she went through a Root pulling out exercise and released junk in her trunk. Her words, "My heart, shoulders, and chest feel so much lighter now."

Jessica * after years of suffering with Fibromyalgia, hospitalizing Migraines, and disability left one of these seminars completely PAIN FREE. It has been 6 months and she has not had one Fibromyalgia symptom.

There is a Biblical Proverb that says:

A PEACEFUL HEART MAKES A HEALTHY BODY

As a health practitioner I can tell you that this is true. Your authentic self needs a peaceful heart, and a body that has released past hurts.

For some of you it may require a heart transplant, but believe me I have personally experienced and have seen hundreds of individuals from the worst possible circumstances and past be set free to be their Authentic Selves AND YOU CAN TOO!

Self Care for Health Part I : Strife and Worry lead to dis-ease

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At 36 years old I have spent many of those years striving in my life. The definition of strife is to struggle or fight forcibly for something. My strife began when I was 9 years old practicing piano 3 plus hours a day to get ready for this competition or this Program. Then I was always struggling to achieve in school and work. I remember going to Chiropractic College where you were in school 40 plus hours, studying another 30 plus hours but yet I accepted a part time position at the American Red Cross as their Interim Health and Safety Director. What was I thinking?

Strife fell over into my career, marriage and relationships. I really thought you had to do all this to have success in life.

It wasn't fun, my adrenaline (the stress hormone) was running all the time. This caused weight gain, allergies, exhaustion and just about a nervous breakdown. Luckily I was in the natural health field and could keep myself from total body system failure. But for many years no matter how much I worked and struggled I was financially and relationally going down hill.

In 2007 right about when I was ready to give it all up I found something that helped me recover, get into balance, and learn to be successful without strife. Now I still fall out of balance some of the time, but my health, relationships, marriage, career, finances, and life is soooo much better. I am a extremely blessed woman from some simple things I found in 2007. I hope these simple secrets can bless you too.

Sincerely;

Dr. Mary Starr Carter

thetotalwellnessdoc.com

Self Care Part I: Strife and Worry lead to disease

I believe many women are striving in their lives because of pressure they put on themselves to be as good as, or to do the most, or to be the best.

It is this striving that many times leads to dis-ease…. In fact this kind of stress has been scientifically proven to result in heart disease, cancer, and a variety of other illnesses. And my personal opinion is that some of the Fibromyalgia cases I see are due to years of strife and struggle.

Worry is in the same category. Women especially worry about their children, bosses, finances, and the list goes on. We even forward worry about things that haven't even happened yet.

Now I don't live with your problems and life so to tell you to STOP WORRYING may seem like I am being a jerk. But I can tell you what the best success book written says about worry.

Matthew 6:27-29
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

Proverbs 12:25
Worry weighs a person down;

Philippians 4:6-7
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

So the bible may not be your thing but here is an example of a client who spent years in dis-ease until she got it.

Strife and Worry lead to dis-ease

Lynn * shared with me just recently a revelation she had after battling painful Shingles on and off for the past several years. She found that during periods of high stress and worry she would break out in painful and obvious shingles on her face and neck.

She had been praying and pouring her heart out to God and realized it wasn't the stress that caused the Shingles but the stress and false burden she put on herself. She kept striving to do as much as she could do with her time and talents. She spent years seeking God looking for what He wanted her to do.

When the revelation came that He (God) had planted in her heart the desire to be a wife and home-maker and that is really all she wanted to do. That she didn't have to keep the cleanest house, to constantly be working and doing, she realized that just being was okay with her and God.

THE DESIRE REVEALS THE DESIGN

When you can connect to your passions, desires and what truly makes you happy many times you can find your design. Some stay at home wives like Lynn feel like they should get a part time job or do something else to "stay busy". When Lynn realized what her true God given Design was ….she became much happier and healthier woman.

I am here to tell you it is okay to be what you desire to be. If your parents and others have put you down, or lead you down a path you don't want to be think about a different path. A path that makes your heart sing!

What are your desires and passions? What makes you happy?

Sometimes it can be challenging to find out what our desires and passions are because their is so much junk in the way.

Part II of Self Care for Health we will share secrets to get the Junk out of the Trunk and find your authentic self.