The ABCs of Getting Out Of The Rut, Tips and Lessons Learned From Names of Young Living Essential Oils
It’s been over five years since Pam’s husband left her. She started out working a 9-5 job and doing whatever she could to make extra money for herself and her two children.
It had been a struggle, looking at co-workers being promoted and not her. A good friend told her about getting new skills, taking care of her appearance, getting a new haircut and buying new sets of clothes.
Pam told herself over and over again…tomorrow… but tomorrow never came.
She is still struggling to love herself or to get a date. She was only 32 but felt like 49. Looking at her friends from a distance…getting all that they wanted…she felt, she was in a rut and not going anywhere…not living the life she once dreamt.
Why did she not want to change and take on a new way of living? Maybe get a new skill, learn a language, dye her hair and embrace the new?
Is she succumbing to doing the same things over and over again…hoping for something different to happen?
Some of us may relate to Pam’s story and feelings. Hoping for a change. It may never happen because being stuck in the same old ways of doing things and not rising above obstacles and challenges…will not create a different result.
Are you tired of doing the same things over and over again?
Are you expecting something different to happen in your life?
The first month of 2012 is over but we still have 11 more.
It has been a privilege to work with Young Living Essential Oils and many hard working, determined, focused and ambitious mompreneurs who stay at home, work part-time and some full-time.
Along the way, we meet some people like Pam that makes us ponder and evaluate on our own lives and feeling sad at the same time. We are definitely not perfect.
We do know what works…
Here are our ABCs tips and lessons of getting out of the rut and living a life that is different each year…to fulfill our dreams and our mission in life. We derived these lessons from Young Living Essential Oil’s names.
A: Acceptance, Awaken and Abundance
Though these are names of Young Living Essential Oils, we can draw tips and lessons from them… to get out of the rut and create a different life this year.
Acceptance:
Most of us either have been given or have heard of Serenity Prayer. It says God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.
Some things in life cannot be changed like our height. But there are many that can be changed. Whatever can’t be changed, we must learn to accept.
The great success book called the Bible in James 1:5 said if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.
Question to ask: What can’t I change and what can I change? Write it down and appreciate them.
Awaken:
Some people are just not aware of the need to change and do things differently. We are sleep walking in our daily lives…we sleep walk to work, play and eat. Our potential is not awaken and our dreams may have been tucked away in one corner of our brain because of fears.
In order to live out of the rut, there needs to be an awakening. Recognize there may be a sleep walking lifestyle in us.
Question to ask: Am I a sleepwalking zombie? Do I lead my life daily without directions and a plan?
Abundance:
Marie, a user of Abundance oil shared this upon her return to the United States after living in France for a few years:
I love Young Living Essential Oils. I first learned about using oils for cures when I lived in France and a Doctor treated my neck pain with oils. Upon my return to the U.S., I learned about Young Living and ever since, I have used these oils every day!
I am especially fond of Abundance, particularly in this time when the news tells us such bad news about lack. When I use the oils, I set my intention, which is easy to do with Abundance. I ask that abundance be provided to me in all areas of my life. When I smell this fabulous oil, I feel abundant and special.
Are we looking at half empty or half full glasses in our lives? There is a great difference how we view life. If we believe there is a lack, we will not attract abundance or fulfillment. Gratitude, purpose and hard work will promote abundance.
Question to ask: How healthy is my mind?
B: Believe, Brainpower
Believe:
Eleanor Roosevelt said the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
Even the Little Engine That Could had to remind himself, “I think I can, I think I can” as he climbed up the hill. We read the book when we were younger and believed everything was possible.
Question to ask: What happened to our belief?
Has negative people and circumstances led us to where we are today with unbelief?
Brain Power:
To give our brain a boost would require us to feed it with powerful words, lessons and experiences. Most of us only use less than 10% of our brain and leave 90% in idleness.
Many successful people and those who are going places and achieving their dreams know the importance of reading inspirational books and listening to motivational MP3s. Learn from someone who already succeeded in what you are trying to achieve.
Success breeds success…that is the only way to increase our brainpower!
Reading junk or not reading at all will not feed our brain, thus a powerless brain.
Question to ask: What am I feeding my brain daily?
C: Clarity, Common Sense
Clarity:
To get to our destination while driving, we need to have clarity of where we are going and the road system should not be blocked by traffic or constructions.
If there are roadblocks…we need alternative routes to get to the destination.
Imagine what would happen to your trip if the roads you needed to take were experiencing a heavy rainstorm and visibility was zero. You either get to your destination later or may have to reroute because of no clarity.
Or there is no clear direction to follow…no MapQuest, no proper road signs. Could we arrive at our destination?
Likewise in the journey of life, we need clarity…clarity of goals and purpose. Possibly a detour or alternative route.
Question to ask: Do you know what you want in life? Or are you living somebody else’s life?
Common Sense:
The Common Sense Essential Oil is known to enhance individual’s reasonable and rational decision-making abilities.
To get out of the rut we need to take steps to make it happen…it is common sense…we heard it before, use your common sense.
What happened to our common sense? Dwell in disbelief, lack of motivation, and no urgency and be complacent and settle.
Question to ask: Do you know your enemies? Those that are trying to hold you back and leave you in the rut?
Are you tired of doing the same old and expecting different results? Nothing will change if we don’t take the steps to make a change.
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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
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Your Mindset May Determine Your Bank Account and Total Wellness
I was watching Extreme Home Makeover “The Gibbs family” when I was overtaken by emotion. Six kids raised by a mom who suffered 5 brain aneurysms 6 months after her husband passed away. The house was falling down with ceilings that were rotted, flies everywhere, and 2 of the kids had to sleep on the coaches. It was a visual picture of poverty that made me cry for 20 minutes.
Then, Wednesday I was driving to work and there was a kid pushing a kid in a stroller. The taller, maybe 15 years old, was in a dirty jacket, old shoes and filthy pants and toddler being pushed in the stroller had 3 days worth of dirt and food on her face, one shoe missing, and an old coat. Now I know poverty doesn’t always look dirty but sadly, this isn’t uncommon in my town of less than 12,000 people. There are 4,000 living in poverty. The behavior, appearance, and attitudes of poverty mentality is all over. Rude language and manners, apathy, violence, destruction, lack of respect for authority, lack of respect for education, lack of respect of property, and dishonor.
Now saying that… I myself have lived in poverty. Even when I started earning 2 times the amount of the average person, I still lived with poverty mentalities of no respect for my property, spending more than I earned, and relying on someone else or system to fix it. (MY Credit Cards)
Even though I have made a lot of progress, I still have a ways to go. As we go into another year I think it is important for all of us to check ourselves for Poverty Roots and if you have a passion for helping those in Poverty, I encourage you not only to work on yourself, but also read the rest of the blog and tell us what you think of my opinion.
What does living in poverty financially look like? In my town for a family of 3, it is $18,310 a year. Let’s think about that? If a mom has kids and stays home to watch them and the dad works to pay rent, utilities, transportation, groceries, insurance and any other necessities that is only about $1,525 a month…. that is about $9 an hour working 40 hours a week at a minimum wage job or $12 an hour working a “Part Time Walmart job” of about 30 hours a week.
Could someone survive with that minimum standard? Let’s See
Here are some stats for my town of about what things cost (conservative estimates):
Rent (2 bedroom apartment): $500
Transportation (cheap car payment and gas): $250
Car Insurance: $75
Groceries: $250
Utilities: $125
Health Care Insurance: $300 (low estimate)
Miscellaneous: $50
= $1550 Therefore, this family would fall short of the minimum of $25 every month as long as they don’t buy anything else and nothing else happens that requires money.
But I know what you are thinking already! You are saying, “Mary, you know as well as I do that most people living in poverty get public assistance”. Yes you are correct, but let’s talk about Assistance THE GOOD AND THE BAD.
Housing assistance – People need shelter especially in my town where it snows 8 months of the year.
Downside – Accountability of care and who lives in the homes is limited. Most of the time either landlords don’t put any effort into making the homes clean and comfortable or the tenants dirty and destroy the property. (My opinion, remember)
Food assistance – Food Stamps, Food Pantries, Food Banks Women and Infant Food and Formula all important and needed. Hunger is still a problem especially in children here and all over the world.
Downside – Fresh foods are very rare at food banks, which contain the highest nutrition content and for Food Stamps assistance, there is no regulation of what foods you can or should buy. The cashiers at our local grocery store inform me that I would get sick watching kids and adults with food stamps purchasing Monster Energy Drinks and carts full of junk food. Did you know that Bakeries can even take food stamps. A local Buffalo, NY Bakery makes $100 birthday cakes for individuals who pay in food stamps. Our Women and Infant food program limits what formulas they disperse so if a baby requires a certain brand because of digestive complaints the woman will have to pay for it. Sadly our local food stamp system is abused further when those incarcerated and fed 3 square meals a day are still accumulating food stamp credits. One local man was able to use over $1000 dollars of food stamps when he was released from 100 days in jail.
Money assistance – I don’t know all the facts of our local Department of Social Services but I do know they have benefits for emergencies, babysitting, rent etc.
Downside- Don’t know a lot, but recently an 18 year old unstable new mom who had a stable home with her mother, and who was assisting in the care of her child, decided she would much rather go live in an apartment with her boyfriend. 2 months later because of the money assistance they get, she lives in a small apartment with her boyfriend receiving almost $1300 in money, housing and food assistance.
My good friend who is single and works her butt off in a home business 20 hours a week and working a 20 hours a week job makes $35,000 a year and complained to me that the store employees earn more than her a year with their government assistance and food stamps and just working 15 hours a week for minimum wage and having several kids. The comment made by these women were “why would we want to work more when the government has provided nicely for us…”
I was on government assistance for a short period of my life… and I admit, I did once buy almost $80 dollars on a birthday cake and junk food for a party I had. I admit it. But there was a greater part of me that wanted to be done with that, that was ashamed but even more, wanted to have something greater for my life.
This year I got to work with 3 individuals in serious poverty. One young 21 year old man who had been in and out of correctional institutions since he was 14 years of age. The others were a 50 year old mom and her 15 year old daughter who had such bad financial skills that they had moved over 30 times, including shelters, in her daughters lifetime. The mom was obsessed with her appearance and was proud of the fact she was still stripping at a local strip club every week.
After many conversations with these individuals I learned that it is the MINDSET that needs to be changed starting in the youth if we are to change our community.
Making Assistance programs stricter with drug testing and more accountable is very important, but until we change the MINDSET of the individuals we cannot change their outcomes.
My husband grew up in poverty and yet he is one of the most successful people I know. Why? Because his mom instilled a strong work ethic, responsibility, honor, and God into his heart. Although she qualified, she could not use public assistance because it was shameful to her. So later in Jay’s life when he was very, very poor, he would eat people’s 8 day leftovers and crackers, walk 10 miles to work, do extra jobs to just keep his head above water. Today he is an IT Analyst and owns two Small Businesses.
Working with these individuals this summer, I learned that both the 21 year old and the 15 year old were spoiled as children. The 15 year olds mom didn’t have money but she gave into her every whim. Today you can still see her throwing a tantrum at 15 and the 50 year old acting like her sister and not her mom. These two have a mindset of ME mentality and an I Deserve it Mentality which ultimately I believe will lead to their destruction.
But the biggest thing I learned from these individuals this summer besides how not to raise children was that if we want to change our community, if we want to change Poverty, we have to change the MINDSET more than their Bank Account.
How can we change Mindsets about Poverty? Well I do believe some Community organizations are on the right paths. They are starting with young children and youths to instill compassion, encouragement, and skills that will let them rise up.
If you want to see some examples of this, take 40 minutes and watch this Secret Millionaire show with my friend Dani Johnson. I especially liked the Music Program for youth in poverty.
Let me know how you think we can change Poverty. Please your comment below. Thank you for reading to my opinion.
Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.
An Exercise to Help You Review Your Year
This is the last week of the year and it is a great time to reflect on 2011. This exercise might take a few hours, a few days, or even an entire week but it will be worth it. This exercise has helped me and many others move from just so so happy with our lives or marriages to creating lives we only dreamed of. So are you ready?
First thing:
Turn off the TV, get away from distractions and get out your calendar or planner and starting with January you write down some of the highlights, special events, things that you learned, ways you grew, life lessons etc. Go week by week, month by month moving closer to the end of the year.
Second Thing:
Now that you have everything written down go back and highlight the real important things of your year. The things that really stick out to you.
Third Thing:
Now it’s gratitude time. With another highlighter or you may even re-write them out highlight or mark everything you are grateful for. Remember even life’s hard lessons always have a purpose.
Now for some of us, we may really need to spend a lot of time in gratitude. Reviewing looking at our accomplishments, sharing them with others who are good listeners or friends and basking in this peaceful place for a few days or the rest of the week. When you feel really GRATEFUL for your year (not just part of it but ALL OF IT) then you can move forward.
After you have gone through your year, focused on what you are grateful for now it’s time to take a hard look at your development and growth. They say if you are not growing your rotting. I don’t know about you but I don’t like to rot.
Fourth Thing:
What new things did you try or skills did you develop with your parenting, marriage, job, or business? Did you give it your best shot? Are you still working on those things? Are you still doing the same techniques and tools you did 3 years ago or 2 relationships ago and they just aren’t working? I know change is difficult but right now you need to know if what you are doing has been productive, positive, or beneficial to you.
Remember sometimes change can be subtle. We all want instant gratification. We want to start a new way of eating, parenting, doing our business, or thinking and have instant results. Give yourself a break if you didn’t see dramatic results. Do you still feel you are moving forward? Most growth and change comes from consistent work, changing our thinking and speaking patterns, and getting to the roots of what caused our problems in the first place.
Okay that’s enough for this week. Next month we will have some more good content on techniques and tools to help you improve your health and happiness in all areas of your life.
Remember if you don’t take a good look at your year you may end up spending this next year learning the same lessons, not seeing the positive, not being grateful and worst of all being in a rut for 2012. I don’t want that for you or me.
I believe you can have the best year of your life. It will take some work but I am here for you and we can work together to bring Total Wellness to 2012 in all areas of your life! Please leave your comment below.
Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.
The Secret Weapon to Destroy Worry
The Secret Weapon to Destroy WORRY
By Dr. Mary Starr Carter
I was raised by worry wart parents so of course I became a worry wart person. Worry would keep me up at night. It would have me running all out most days. It would keep me from ever having peace. Worry led me to a few mini meltdowns and even what I would call a nervous breakdown. But most of all worry stole many years of my life.
What did I worry about? Like most people money, debt, time, the safety of my loved ones, the outcome of a test, my own abilities and the list goes on.
The word worry means strangle. S-T-R-A-N-G-L-E Strangle or STRONGHOLD well worry definitely was strangling me. It was robbing me of my joy and peace and although I didn't know it at the time it was robbing the people in my life and the people I wouldn't meet because of this STRONGHOLD.
When did my WORRY let go of it's stronghold. It started in Fall of 2007 when I opened up my heart to God and started to let Him in. At first I noticed I was sleeping sounder at night. Nothing had changed in my exterior life I still had zero dollars in my bank account and a quarter of a million dollars in debt but yet I was sleeping sound. I wasn't running running running like a chicken with my head cut off. If I didn't finish oh well the world would not end.
I started really understanding and living Biblical principals particular Mathew 11:28-30 and Mathew 6:34. Before I was always depending on myself to accomplish everything, when I let go of worry and that STRONGHOLD FEAR I allowed God to come in direct and lead me in the right directions. My life became much more simple. I didn't feel like I was going around and around but never getting any results.
Now don't get me wrong I still let worry and fear creep in every now and then but then I remember there is no point in worrying in fact worry can be quite deadly.
Worry, Anxiety, and Stress are contributors to most of the 75-90% of all hospital visits. Worry is killing people. And don't think that your problems have to be bad for worry to get it's STRONGHOLD on you. You and I, both have met plenty of people who are financially secure by most standards yet worry the most. I remember visiting these clients who had gotten married two years previously and their home was extremely cluttered and unsafe.
Instead of getting a bigger home or storage for their now blended family they “stored” everything in their home. The husband was so worried about money he would not allow the wife to buy anything even with her own money. She desperately needed some nutrition supplements and essential oils but he couldn't see spending that money. Yet this young couple already had saved over $200,000 in the bank and had no debt. That STRONGHOLD eventually led to the demise of their marriage.
Worry can lead to addictions, hoarding, and worse, the end of your relationships and your health.
I want you to think about what you worry about. Do you worry what people will think of your messy house or the things you have to don't have in your home? Do you worry if your family will like your new wife? Do you worry if your children will stay healthy, get good grades, or become a good person?
Write down what you worry about.
Now I want you to look at that list and STOP WORRYING….. That might be impossible for many of you because worry is your habit it is in your programming.
But there are some SECRET WEAPONs to kill WORRY.
THANKSGIVING: See worry is a verb and action something that you consciously or unconsciously do. In order to re-write your programming you will need to also have another action — GRATITUDE – the action of Thanksgiving.
In her book 1000 Gifts a Dare to live fully right where you are by Ann Voskamp the reader is taught to be grateful for things that we mostly miss when we are in worry. If you struggle with worry or live in fear most days then I highly recommend this book and follow the instructions.
Accepting God's grace as your Provider. For anyone out there who has been on top of the world physically, emotionally and financially and then the next day lost it all you will attest to how fleeting things can be. When I learned not to worry about money (and am still learning) that is when God's grace opened up.
If you need more help on that open up the Bible and read the stories of the amazing grace poured out on a who lot of people who didn't deserve it.
Let go of Control: If you are a controlling person like I used to be it is very difficult to let GOD take over let alone another person. No one can do it as good as you. Well that may be true but we all have to let go to move forward in life. If you truly want to grow your business, raise amazing independent healthy minded children, develop into the best person you can be we have to let go and let GOD.
Don't do drugs do OILS…. I have met numerous people who end up medicated do to the worry and anxiety in their life. If you are on those meds please be aware you can not just come off them without some serious and sometimes fatal side effects. Please work with a qualified doctor who has a lot of experience in taking patients off those meds successfully.
But whether you are on medication or not and you have worry or stress you can use therapeutic Young Living essential oils like Stress Away, Valor, Peace and Calming, or Tranquil oils to help decompress and relax your brain and body. When you inhale an oil like Young Living essential oils that are pure and free from synthetics your brain immediately responds. These specific oils have been scientifically been proven to bring you into a state of relaxation.
Many Young Living users will inhale oils 10-20 times a day as well as wear them as perfume or cologne to protect their health and calm their mind.
Simplify: In my office one of the doors has a sign that says simplify. Having less, doing less, running less, can add a great deal of peace to your life.
This summer I started a Program that helped people get off the streets and into a learning and growing environment that mentored them to a better life. I probably used this program as a crutch after my miscarriage to fill a void. You caretakers know that too well…. take care of everyone else but ourselves.
Well I found over the months that this was bringing more and more stress to me and my family. I came to the conclusion that I needed to let go of this program in order to put myself and my family first. I did and it was like a huge weight off me. I also reclaimed some things I lost due to that program and feel a much greater peace and simplicity in my life.
Lastly I just want to share with you that I am still no expert on Not Worrying, but since I have incorporated the above recommendations into my life I am a whole lot happier and have a great deal of peace in my life. I wish this same Peace for you.
God Bless you, your family and your life to Total Wellness.
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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.
Are You a Door Mat?
Are you a Door Mat?
Saying NO, Setting Boundaries, and Expressing your True Feelings
Dr. Mary Starr Carter
I pointed to the door mat and said to my client Karen " you are not a door mat". See for the past several years many people had been taking advantage of her. She was a retired with a huge heart for people and animals and it seemed like her family, friends and service organizations she belonged to were constantly calling to get her to do things.
For years she obliged and spent hundreds of hours and thousands of dollars caring for the needs of others. She was at her breaking point. Her blood pressure was 220/100 and the doctor wanted to hospitalize her.
She was very scared and VERY STRESSED. Kari had put everyone's needs before her own until she literally was ready to explode. The physical is directly related to your emotional health. If you have poor emotional health and balance you will see physical deterioration. For some it can lead to early death.
Peggy was on that same track. Almost ready to retire she was still always saying yes to whatever or whomever asked for her help. She worked for almost 15 years like a dog from April – October managing and caring for a Seasonal store. She literally worked her fingers to the bone. She would work 10-12 hr days, many 6-7 days a week .
Her hands were now all arthritic. And during her "off" time of the year she was babysitting her granddaughter, filling in at her cousins store, and really never taking any time for herself.
To make it worse she had step children that wanted everything but were never grateful. They were mean, hurtful and offensive at every family gathering. Yet Peggy never said anything. Peggy was almost 60 when she began to really physically and mentally lose it.
All those years of saying YES of biting her tongue when people hurt her were building up. One day her step child said an ungrateful statement and something inside of Peggy exploded. All that anger just came to the surface and she ran over slapped the girl across the face and ripped out part of her hair. THIS WAS NOT PEGGY. Peggy was a quiet peaceful person, but all those years of not expressing her feelings of hurt and anger came out at once.
Peggy was mortified that she was even capable of that kind of behavior. She sought counseling and learned why that happened and developed techniques of Saying NO , Expressing herself and setting Boundaries that not only will avoid it ever happening again but brought a great deal of joy to her heart. Surprisingly she is a much happier, healthier, has released 30lbs without even changing her eating or exercise.
In both Kari and Peggy's case they were physically and emotionally deteriorating because they did not CARE for themselves enough to SAY NO, express their feelings, and stop the bad behavior towards them.
Saying NO – Setting Boundaries:
For some us we are innately wired to want people to like us. Somewhere in that programming we think that doing things for others will cause them to like us. Even as adults when this knowledge no longer makes sense we are wired subconsciously to do this. We give things away, we may even overlook our own self care to care for others.
Saying No to others is about Saying YES to yourself. It's about loving yourself and your physical and emotional health enough to make a change for the better. Saying NO is hard at first but it is crucial to your health.
Whether it is to your mom, sister, brother, principal, or church saying no is important. Sometimes you may have to say no to everything for a period of time to re-group, retreat, and regain your own health and the health of your family.
Many individuals don't realize that saying YES to everyone may mean you are saying NO to your family or spouse or worse yourself.
Make sure you have prioritized what and whom is most important in your life and then base your decisions of how often and whom you say yes to on that.
Expressing your Feelings :
It is not my forte to teach you how to express your feelings because I still am not good at it. Of course you will find me crying at every sad story because I do have deep compassion but to share my own feelings that is difficult.
But I have learned a lot from Dr. Lavonne Atnip an incredible psychologist and marriage counselor. We can end up with all sorts of dysfunction for our childhood and adolescents even if you had great parents. Some people at an early age were chastised for showing emotion so now to them expressing how they feel will only lead to pain in their minds.
Others when they were young would express themselves and were told that they were stupid. All these things can lead to adults not expressing their true feelings or expressing them inappropriately, including Low Self Esteem.
I am not qualified to tell you how to break these habits but I do have some great resources:
Dr. Lavonne Atnip offers phone consultation to people all over the US.
The book Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. Robert Townsend.
Healing for Damaged Emotions David Seamans and Beth Funk
We have to understand that more STRESS can be caused by not saying NO, not setting boundaries with people or environments in our life, or not expressing our true feelings. Stress can lead to your physical demise….. REALLY.
Right now you may feel it could be more stressful to SAY NO, SET BOUNDARIES, or EXPRESS YOURSELF. That may be true for a short period of time, but if you want to work through that you can have a much more REWARDING and FUFILLING LIFE and most of all experience TOTAL WELLNESS.
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Dr. Mary Starr Carter is known as the Total Wellness Doc. She has been training individuals about Natural Health Solutions for over 13 years. She is trained as a Chiropractor and has studied under the world’s foremost leaders in natural medicine. She is a mother and a wife and has created a balanced and total wellness life for herself and thousands of her clients using her simple wholistic approach to health and wellness. Her coaching, classes and ebooks help clients with Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes, Weight problems, Thyroid and Chronic pain find resources and solutions to better health.
We publish newsletters and blogposts twice a week for our readers for general education purposes only. We cover topics that are related to achieving and maintaining total wellness which includes our emotional, physical, spiritual and financial health.