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Home Hacks For Mama and Kiddos  

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Do you ever wish you had more time in your day? Does your energy plummet mid afternoon most days?  Do you feel overwhelmed most weeks? Is every month a struggle financially?  Do you go to bed promising yourself you will be a better mom tomorrow? 

First of all breathe, give yourself Grace and tell yourself you are enough. I know because I have lived — and sometimes still live — like this. But there some simple easy things you can implement to feel better and do better. 
 
 

Hacks for Every Home for Moms & Kids

I made this little video to help you. It’s 10 minutes and will be worth to watch or just listen to I promise. 
 

 
I love and appreciate you. You are enough! 
 
Dr. Mary Starr Carter
The Total Wellness Doc
 
 
 

Are you GOOD but want to be GREAT?

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I put myself in a bootcamp starting back in April and I just completed it. It was a Bootcamp for moms like me. I have had some huge epiphanies this year in a lot of areas in my life, health, parenting, relationships, marriage, and of course my two jobs. This Bootcamp helped me to see I have been treating some “Jobs” in my life more like hobbies giving them attention when I feel like it versus showing up and doing the work day in and day out. This bootcamp along with some other training helped me realize that in most areas of my life I am doing okay to fair. What you might be thinking, but Dr Mary you are successful?! True I have had success and achieve new levels in certain areas of my life but…

The Problem with Success is a Little Bit…

What do I mean by that? See the problem with losing weight, increasing your income, having good kids, having a good marriage is you can fall into complacency that

  • “Hey, I am doing good”
  • “My marriage is better than most people”
  • ” My income is great”

And with complacency you don’t work on being better because you think this is “good enough”.

Or you fall into a trap I heard termed “EGYPT” … If you are familiar with the Bible and the Israelite’s journey. During a famine Joseph saved his Father and brothers families and brought them (Goshen a property of Egypt). The land was rich farm land and perfect for their cattle and sheep. The Isrealites grew exponentially over the few hundred years but what was once their saving grace, their land of plenty became their enslavement. Literally they became the Egyptian slaves.. YIKES….

Complacency vs. Greatness

Think about it. Are you getting so comfortable or complacent in some area of your life you’ve gotten stuck? When it comes to health, marriage, your career or business, have you started to say things like…

  • “I don’t need to eat good because I am skinny”
  • “I workout I can drink and eat what I want”
  • “I am young still”
    “My parents lived to their 90’s”
  • ” We’ve been married so many years we are just fine”
  • “I don’t need to put effort into looking my best”
  • “My spouse will never cheat on me”
  • “They will never fire me they need me”
  • “This money is coming in every month I can spend it how I want now.”
  • ” I am at a level of success in my home business I get paid monthly now I don’t need to work anymore”

These attitudes keep us in average to good relationships, marriages, bodies, jobs, careers, businesses but we never get to our full potential because we stop learning, growing and working towards being our best. I think this happens because where we came from was so bad, poverty, struggle, being single, debt, brokenness that when our lives get good we just stay there, a few steps away from greatness.

With complacency you don’t work on being better because you think this is “good enough”.

The Key To Greatness: Awareness

I am encouraging you today to get out of Complacency. I AM CALLING YOU to WAKE UP to your EGYPT. This week take a good look at areas of your life that you might think are GOOD now but could be BETTER. Look at things in your life that were once a blessing but maybe now are binding you with stress, financial burdens, unfulfillment, or worry — become aware of them.

Seriously take the time to ponder this stuff.

Start a journal and write down areas of your life that you want to go from GOOD to GREAT… or maybe you are still in the FAIR or POOR group and you just want Good. Then I encourage you to join me on my Journey from Good to Great. It is so much more fun if we can do things together.

[Our] attitudes keep us in average to good relationships, marriages, bodies, jobs, careers, and businesses.

Tools to Live A Great Life

This summer you are welcome to join me and hundreds of others in learning the tools to live a great life. I’m leading several activities aimed to support you on your path to greatness in your whole life and in your finances. Below are further details about them.

Total Wellness Wednesdays

Wellness is about your whole life. I hope you will join me. We meet once a week on Facebook Live on Wednesdays usually around 9pm EST, 8pm CST, 7pm MST, 6pm PCT on Facebook Live for classes and encouragement https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/

Did you miss some of my last classes? Here are the Topics and Links:

Emotional Wellness with Essential Oils (Part 1 & 2)

  1. https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/videos/1464183166975911/
  2. https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/videos/1464168386977389/

Bringing your Essential Oils into your Quiet time with God

  1. https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/videos/1471459739581587/

Make Your Finances Great Again

We are also Hosting a WAR on Debt Class for those who want to be ROCK STARS with their Finances. Whether you are drowning in Debt or have no debt you can get a lot our of our class.

Join the class by visiting: https://www.facebook.com/groups/411633012529029/ and Join the Group.

We are running this program in June and July.

More details in the group!

I will be at the Young Living Convention (21,000 people from all over the world who want to learn what is new in the Health and Wellness Field) this week and will post videos and pictures of all the good stuff over on my Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/ and on Instagram @drmarystarr

Don’t miss a thing! Make sure to stop by on my Facebook Page and under “Following”, check SEE FIRST. This will ensure that you see all the goodies in your Newsfeed.

If you are going to be at Convention come try to find me say hello and let’s take a picture together.

I appreciate you;

Mary Starr Carter
The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

How to Eliminate Headaches and Sinus Pressure

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Have you ever pushed yourself hard and ended up getting sick, a sinus infection, cold or headaches?

We all have seasons when we have to run hard but when you don’t feel well it is awful.  For 2 decades of my life I struggled with my health particularly with allergies, sinus infections, and headaches.

My Early Sinus Challenges

I was the toddler with the ear infections and tonsils out by the time I was 4 years old.  As a kid I remember being on the nowDISCONTINUED Seldane allergy medicine and having Sinus infections and being on Amoxicillin every other month.  It wasn’t fun.  It was so often we would just keep leftover antibiotics in the medicine cabinet and take it when I had sinus challenges.  Little did we know that we were making the problem worse not using antibiotics correctly.

Sinus Over The Counter Meds and Their Effects

Later in college I would have sinus pressure and headaches almost daily.  I would take Sudafed daily for the problem at first then Irealized it helped give me energy so I just took it daily.  UNTIL that ONE DAY….. when I took it and my heart started pounding out of my chest.  I thought I was going to die.  And after a little investigation I learned that this Over the Counter Medicine did have some fatal side effects.  YIKES.  This was the beginning of my journey to natural medicine.

Simple Tips For Sinus Health

Using these simple tips I give you in this video has helped me eliminate allergies, sinus infections, and sinus pressure.   Now I occasionally get some little allergy attack or pressure headache but it usually is because I haven’t been following these tips.   My own kids 4 and 7 years old have never had to have antibiotics or allergy medicines.  I know these tips work.  USE THEM. They will help you.

Stay Healthy; Boost Your Immune System

Lastly I will encourage you to stay healthy avoid sickness we must, must, must boost our immune system.  That means we are feeding our bodies well and using nutritional products that help us stay well.

Two of my favorite Nutritionals are:

NingXia Red

I recommend taking 2 – 4 oz a day of NingXia Red for adults and 1/2 – 2oz for kids, it helps our family stay well!

Thieves Vitality oil

Thieves Essential oil in a capsule or in water also helps us stay well. It’s a hot oil with cinnamon in it, so putting it in honey helps.

Let me know if these tips help your family too!

Love,

Mary Starr Carter

The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

Enjoy Precious Time with Loved Ones

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How are you? Did you have a good week and weekend? I have ever been enjoying precious time with my mom. She is here for a 2 week trip to help me with the kids and many other things while I travel for business.

It’s been a great week and we even got massages in the other day.  I had my therapist use Blue Cypress oil in my massage and it was such a deep relaxation. This precious oil comes from Australia and its history of coming to the market is unique, sad and victorious. I promise to share more soon. I am so proud to be partnering with such amazing pioneers and world changers.

But a part of my heart has sad for some families and friends. One of my good friends is going through cancer treatments, another team member just lost her sister, and an acquaintance Homeschooling mom suddenly lost her 8 year old daughter this past week.  Can you imagine? It’s something we never think will happen to us, death of a child, loved one, cancer. Most of us spend our days thinking we have years to live with our loved ones, but what if you don’t?

This week I want to encourage you to look at where you are spending your time. Are you making time for loved ones?  Take a hard look. What is important? Sarah’s soccer game or taking the day to go visit a loved one.  Is attending another weekend meeting as important as going to see your mom for the day?

I spent a decade of my life living like my school or business was the most important thing in my life. I put everything below my business  including my marriage, family and friends. I regret the years I lost and see now how much time I wasted. You can have both I promise. I am learning how to have a great marriage, time with family, friends and run a business.

If you want to join me on this journey stay tuned to these blogs and follow me on Facebook and Instagram at https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/ or https://www.instagram.com/drmarystarr/

There’s still time to enter the Mother’s Day Giveaway, if you haven’t done so yet, there’s still time to let a mom you know know she’s appreciated.

Love,

Mary Starr Carter

Mother’s Day Giveaway

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Recently my husband was out of town for 10 days and by the 3rd day of single mommyhood I was worn out.  How about you? My friend Paula’s husband is away most days of the week for work and she still manages to homeschool 5 kids, take them to all their activities and run her home business successfully.  WOW.  I can barely get a trip to the grocery store in with only 2 kids without feeling overwhelmed.  Mommyhood is hard and for me it is a journey of learning and growing.  I admire so many moms who do this and do it well.
My sister and brother in law refused to put their daughter in day care so more than a decade they worked opposite shifts so one of them could be home with their daughter at all times…  Can you imagine the years of little to know sleep?   My friend Shannon has a family of 10 she manages really well. For several years her husband had to live and work in NYC while the rest of the family lived in Texas.  She says some days it was all she could do to get the kids fed.

Mom – You Are Awesome, You Are Enough!!!

We all know moms who are amazing.  Moms who spouses are away in the military, moms who love on their children, moms who are raising other people’s children. There are so many examples out there. But I am here to tell you that YOU ARE AMAZING TOO. Sometimes I, and maybe you too, compare ourselves to SO and SO MOM:
“She is a SUPER MOM”
“She does this and this and this really well”
“Why Can’t I be like that mom”
S.T.O.P. STOP, STOP! comparing yourself, putting yourself down, or feeling guilty because of what you don’t do for your kids. So to honor you and let you know that YOU ARE ENOUGH.  I would like to bless you with a special gift I have put together for mommas: in the Mom, You Are Enough Mother’s Day Giveaway

Announcing a Mother’s Day Giveaway

If you are like me you are the last person on your list you buy for; You have wanted that new cutting board, the legendary Instant Pot, a pair of buttery soft ultra cute LuLaRoe leggings (or three), that super nifty Essential oil Diffuser, or new makeup for years but haven’t been able to save up or prioritize yourself.  Now is the chance to pamper yourself!!
Enter the Mother’s Day Giveaway and win:
  • a day of pampering at the Spa, (Massage, Pedicure, New Hair Style or Color you pick)
  • $100 gift card from XMhBeauty.com for makeup (or virtual makeup lessons to Glam It Up & look your best)
  • $100 gift card for a LuLaRoe shopping spree
  • $100 gift certificate towards Young Living Essential oils
  • $100 Amazon Gift Card for your Wish List
That’s right, we will be Giving Away this AWESOME Mother’s Day Gift to one mom who likes our page and posts a picture of her family and what she likes most about being a mom on our Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/.
No matter what stage of life you are in, Mom of littles, Mom of Teens, a Grandmom all mom’ are welcome to submit their picture and story.
Don’t have kids yet?  Why not submit a picture of your own mom or favorite mom for them.
We love you Moms.  And want to make you recognize how special, AWESOME and ENOUGH you are.

How To Enter The Mother’S Day Giveaway

  • Visit and Like our Page, The Total Wellness Doc & Mom here.
  • Find for the Pinned Post with the image below
  • Post a picture comment of your family and tell us what you like most about being a mom.
One winner will be randomly picked on Sunday May 28th.  So spread the word, share this post with all your favorite mom friends.
You are Enough;
Mary Starr Carter
The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

Raising Sons and Daughters

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Do you have kids? Are they older out of the house, teenagers or still little ? My kids just turned 4 and 7 and they are incredible. I am sure every mom says that about their kids. Don’t get me wrong they still can be mean, hurtful, rude, and annoying but for the most part my days with them are joyous. I am told that I need to enjoy this time in their lives and every time I hear that I am grateful…. I mean really grateful that I get to spend quality time with them everyday.

I am going to be honest here. Two years ago I was more in love with my business then my kids. I thought, dreamed about and spent more physical and emotional time with my business then my kids. Even when I was with them my mind was on something or someone else in my business. But thank you GOD I had a Wake up Call and this past summer God called me out to do the Hard Things which included being a Fully Present Momma. So I followed directions cut my work hours, let go of our 30 hours a week babysitter/home-helper, and WOW it has been some of the most rewarding times of my life even with the struggles and weekly tears.

I love love love my kids on a much deeper level than before. I am growing to understand better, and as my mother in law says they are really flourishing with all my Mommy attention, love, discipline, and direction. At the same time I am also recognizing my need to protect these little budding flowers.

Protecting their Souls

Recently I stayed in a big city on the 10th floor of a large hotel near the airport. It was a nice hotel but one thing really bugged me. As I would get off the elevator this big window overlooked the city and their strategically placed for me to see was a huge sign with beautiful teenage looking woman with lots of makeup on. It was an ad for a Gentlemen’s Club.

Really? Really there it was bold as day in this beautiful hotel so close to the airport with hundreds of travelers everyday I know it was strategically placed there. I got a little upset in my spirit. Then I was in another part of the hotel coming up the stairs and their was another add…

Really? Talk about target marketing. But these signs and establishments are in every city and using sex to sell has been with us for a long long time.

When I was teenager I had this great opportunity to attend something called Teen Institute a retreat for high schoolers in Peer Leading roles. One particular presentation has stuck with me for 20 plus years. The presentation WOKE UP a bunch of us teenagers to how advertising all around us was using SEX to sell in some way. HOLY CRAP!!! I couldn’t believe it. WOW.. It’s not just Gentleman’s clubs it’s everything from food and drugs to cars and fragrance. It is so prevalent most of us are immune to it. Don’t take my experiences or opinions as fact do your own research.

Every parent wants to protect their children from the perils of pornography but do we understand where it really begins? I think it actually begins in their early life with simple billboards, TV shows, revealing magazines in the grocery store line, and catalogs in our home. I think we as adults have become so desensitized to most things SEXUAL all around us we don’t pay attention to these little gateway sexual teasers all around us. And I do believe that is a strategy too. More than a decade ago Forbes magazine said the Porn industry was worth 3.9 BILLION dollars between all the different forms of it. HOLY COW… There has to be a lot of strategy and unseen marketing to get that kind of Cash out of our Pockets… And let’s not be judgmental of others and think it doesn’t effect your family because I guarantee someone around you is being affected, tested, or tormented.

So what is my point here? My point is we have sons and daughters who we want to succeed in life. We don’t want to see them fall into this type of addiction and yes porn is an addiction. In Brain studies it is more addictive than cocaine. We want happy healthy marriages and lives for them. So we need to wake up to the pitfalls around us that we are asleep to.

Let’s WAKE UP

I recently heard this radio program called the Face of Porn may surprise you.

It was eye opening. I suggest you listen too if you have kids young or old. Are you like me? Super serious about protecting your children, grandchildren and future generations. Even if that means extra work for you. If that is you I suggest getting the Grooming the Next Generation for Success Home Study Program and Book

For more than a decade I have watched families raise their children using the programs proven strategies to protect and groom these future generations. People like Brad and Amanda Young who not only healed their dysfunctional marriage but groomed 4 and 6 year old girls into amazing talented teenagers today. I just hope I can do the same now that I have the tools.

Let’s stand up against the evil around us. Let’s be a LIGHT so Bright that Darkness can’t penetrate. Let’s get the skills to Shine Bright, Protect, and Groom our Children for success. Don’t wait. Do it now.

Get Grooming the Next Generation TODAY

God Bless you and your Family. I will be praying and warring for your you all on this subject. I love you and want to see you succeed.

~M