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Enjoy Precious Time with Loved Ones

How are you? Did you have a good week and weekend? I have ever been enjoying precious time with my mom. She is here for a 2 week trip to help me with the kids and many other things while I travel for business.

It’s been a great week and we even got massages in the other day. I had my therapist use Blue Cypress oil in my massage and it was such a deep relaxation. This precious oil comes from Australia and its history of coming to the market is unique, sad and victorious. I promise to share more soon. I am so proud to be partnering with such amazing pioneers and world changers.

But a part of my heart has sad for some families and friends. One of my good friends is going through cancer treatments, another team member just lost her sister, and an acquaintance Homeschooling mom suddenly lost her 8 year old daughter this past week. Can you imagine? It’s something we never think will happen to us, death of a child, loved one, cancer. Most of us spend our days thinking we have years to live with our loved ones, but what if you don’t?

This week I want to encourage you to look at where you are spending your time. Are you making time for loved ones? Take a hard look. What is important? Sarah’s soccer game or taking the day to go visit a loved one. Is attending another weekend meeting as important as going to see your mom for the day?

I spent a decade of my life living like my school or business was the most important thing in my life. I put everything below my business including my marriage, family and friends. I regret the years I lost and see now how much time I wasted. You can have both I promise. I am learning how to have a great marriage, time with family, friends and run a business.

If you want to join me on this journey stay tuned to these blogs and follow me on Facebook and Instagram at https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/ or https://www.instagram.com/drmarystarr/

There’s still time to enter the Mother’s Day Giveaway, if you haven’t done so yet, there’s still time to let a mom you know know she’s appreciated.

Love,

Mary Starr Carter

Mother’s Day Giveaway

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Recently my husband was out of town for 10 days and by the 3rd day of single mommyhood I was worn out. How about you? My friend Paula’s husband is away most days of the week for work and she still manages to homeschool 5 kids, take them to all their activities and run her home business successfully. WOW. I can barely get a trip to the grocery store in with only 2 kids without feeling overwhelmed. Mommyhood is hard and for me it is a journey of learning and growing. I admire so many moms who do this and do it well.

My sister and brother in law refused to put their daughter in day care so more than a decade they worked opposite shifts so one of them could be home with their daughter at all times… Can you imagine the years of little to know sleep? My friend Shannon has a family of 10 she manages really well. For several years her husband had to live and work in NYC while the rest of the family lived in Texas. She says some days it was all she could do to get the kids fed.

Mom – You Are Awesome, You Are Enough!!!

We all know moms who are amazing. Moms who spouses are away in the military, moms who love on their children, moms who are raising other people’s children. There are so many examples out there. But I am here to tell you that YOU ARE AMAZING TOO. Sometimes I, and maybe you too, compare ourselves to SO and SO MOM:

“She is a SUPER MOM”

“She does this and this and this really well”

“Why Can’t I be like that mom”

S.T.O.P. STOP, STOP! comparing yourself, putting yourself down, or feeling guilty because of what you don’t do for your kids. So to honor you and let you know that YOU ARE ENOUGH. I would like to bless you with a special gift I have put together for mommas: in the Mom, You Are Enough Mother’s Day Giveaway

Announcing a Mother’s Day Giveaway

If you are like me you are the last person on your list you buy for; You have wanted that new cutting board, the legendary Instant Pot, a pair of buttery soft ultra cute LuLaRoe leggings (or three), that super nifty Essential oil Diffuser, or new makeup for years but haven’t been able to save up or prioritize yourself. Now is the chance to pamper yourself!!

Enter the Mother’s Day Giveaway and win:

a day of pampering at the Spa, (Massage, Pedicure, New Hair Style or Color you pick)
$100 gift card from XMhBeauty.com for makeup (or virtual makeup lessons to Glam It Up & look your best)
$100 gift card for a LuLaRoe shopping spree
$100 gift certificate towards Young Living Essential oils
$100 Amazon Gift Card for your Wish List

That’s right, we will be Giving Away this AWESOME Mother’s Day Gift to one mom who likes our page and posts a picture of her family and what she likes most about being a mom on our Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/TheTotalWellnessDocandMom/.

No matter what stage of life you are in, Mom of littles, Mom of Teens, a Grandmom all mom’ are welcome to submit their picture and story.

Don’t have kids yet? Why not submit a picture of your own mom or favorite mom for them.

We love you Moms. And want to make you recognize how special, AWESOME and ENOUGH you are.

How To Enter The Mother’S Day Giveaway

Visit and Like our Page, The Total Wellness Doc & Mom here.
Find for the Pinned Post with the image below
Post a picture comment of your family and tell us what you like most about being a mom.

One winner will be randomly picked on Sunday May 28th. So spread the word, share this post with all your favorite mom friends.

You are Enough;

Mary Starr Carter

The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

Raising Sons and Daughters

by Mary Carter 1 Comment

Do you have kids? Are they older out of the house, teenagers or still little ? My kids just turned 4 and 7 and they are incredible. I am sure every mom says that about their kids. Don’t get me wrong they still can be mean, hurtful, rude, and annoying but for the most part my days with them are joyous. I am told that I need to enjoy this time in their lives and every time I hear that I am grateful…. I mean really grateful that I get to spend quality time with them everyday.

I am going to be honest here. Two years ago I was more in love with my business then my kids. I thought, dreamed about and spent more physical and emotional time with my business then my kids. Even when I was with them my mind was on something or someone else in my business. But thank you GOD I had a Wake up Call and this past summer God called me out to do the Hard Things which included being a Fully Present Momma. So I followed directions cut my work hours, let go of our 30 hours a week babysitter/home-helper, and WOW it has been some of the most rewarding times of my life even with the struggles and weekly tears.

I love love love my kids on a much deeper level than before. I am growing to understand better, and as my mother in law says they are really flourishing with all my Mommy attention, love, discipline, and direction. At the same time I am also recognizing my need to protect these little budding flowers.

Protecting their Souls

Recently I stayed in a big city on the 10th floor of a large hotel near the airport. It was a nice hotel but one thing really bugged me. As I would get off the elevator this big window overlooked the city and their strategically placed for me to see was a huge sign with beautiful teenage looking woman with lots of makeup on. It was an ad for a Gentlemen’s Club.

Really? Really there it was bold as day in this beautiful hotel so close to the airport with hundreds of travelers everyday I know it was strategically placed there. I got a little upset in my spirit. Then I was in another part of the hotel coming up the stairs and their was another add…

Really? Talk about target marketing. But these signs and establishments are in every city and using sex to sell has been with us for a long long time.

When I was teenager I had this great opportunity to attend something called Teen Institute a retreat for high schoolers in Peer Leading roles. One particular presentation has stuck with me for 20 plus years. The presentation WOKE UP a bunch of us teenagers to how advertising all around us was using SEX to sell in some way. HOLY CRAP!!! I couldn’t believe it. WOW.. It’s not just Gentleman’s clubs it’s everything from food and drugs to cars and fragrance. It is so prevalent most of us are immune to it. Don’t take my experiences or opinions as fact do your own research.

Every parent wants to protect their children from the perils of pornography but do we understand where it really begins? I think it actually begins in their early life with simple billboards, TV shows, revealing magazines in the grocery store line, and catalogs in our home. I think we as adults have become so desensitized to most things SEXUAL all around us we don’t pay attention to these little gateway sexual teasers all around us. And I do believe that is a strategy too. More than a decade ago Forbes magazine said the Porn industry was worth 3.9 BILLION dollars between all the different forms of it. HOLY COW… There has to be a lot of strategy and unseen marketing to get that kind of Cash out of our Pockets… And let’s not be judgmental of others and think it doesn’t effect your family because I guarantee someone around you is being affected, tested, or tormented.

So what is my point here? My point is we have sons and daughters who we want to succeed in life. We don’t want to see them fall into this type of addiction and yes porn is an addiction. In Brain studies it is more addictive than cocaine. We want happy healthy marriages and lives for them. So we need to wake up to the pitfalls around us that we are asleep to.

Let’s WAKE UP

I recently heard this radio program called the Face of Porn may surprise you.

It was eye opening. I suggest you listen too if you have kids young or old. Are you like me? Super serious about protecting your children, grandchildren and future generations. Even if that means extra work for you. If that is you I suggest getting the Grooming the Next Generation for Success Home Study Program and Book

For more than a decade I have watched families raise their children using the programs proven strategies to protect and groom these future generations. People like Brad and Amanda Young who not only healed their dysfunctional marriage but groomed 4 and 6 year old girls into amazing talented teenagers today. I just hope I can do the same now that I have the tools.

Let’s stand up against the evil around us. Let’s be a LIGHT so Bright that Darkness can’t penetrate. Let’s get the skills to Shine Bright, Protect, and Groom our Children for success. Don’t wait. Do it now.

Get Grooming the Next Generation TODAY

God Bless you and your Family. I will be praying and warring for your you all on this subject. I love you and want to see you succeed.

Consistency Tips

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… and $2000 in Essential oils for 5 Bucks plus a WIN RECIPE for your house

How was Easter? Do you celebrate Easter or rather Resurrection Day we like to call it in our house. Our daughter Sarah Grace’s birthday was this weekend so we had fun making the whole weekend special for her. She wanted a cake with pink flowers so against my better judgement I bought a Rainbow sprinkle cake and this chemical filled, artificially made pink cake writing stuff. Here is my results.

Vomit

You can laugh at my art work if you want. The cake was over the top sweet and she couldn’t even finish one piece. My son on the other hand had too many pieces and the next morning woke up with an awful belly ache. He was really hurting so I rubbed some of my natural remedies on his belly which helped a little bit, then he was really hurting so I gave him a capsule full of my natural remedies and within 10 minutes he threw up once. Within 30 minutes no more stomach pain and 3 hours later he was out riding his bike and back to his old cheerful self. Puke gets a bad rap but I think it is the body’s way of getting rid of poisons. I believe my capsule of natural remedy helped the body wake up to what it had to do.

$2000 in Essential oils for 5 Dollars

Sounds too good to be true, but that is only because of two amazing women. Kathy Kouwe and Regina Pruitt. Kathy donated some very rare and precious Out of Stock Essential oil Kits to Regina Pruitt’s fundraiser. Regina has lived a miralce life with Cystic Fibrosis for 40 plus years and now is ready for a lung transplant. If you want to know more about this special fundraiser and how you can win 10 different Precious Rare Essential oils Kits visit our Facebook Event here for the details and how to Play to Win!

(Copy & paste this link into your browser if the one above doesn’t work: https://www.facebook.com/events/1781946045454226/)

Do it ASAP please and share with OILY Friends please. Regina is waiting and it’s getting very close to her transplant operation and she needs our support.

BOOTCAMP – Life, Business, Health, Homeschool

This week starts the beginning of my Homeschool Bootcamp. I am grateful for this inexpensive resource. I really struggle with consistency in many areas of my life. My business practices, my health habits, parenting, and now homeschool. I am a good starter, get a plan, even organize and then something happens to get me off track and boom I am behind, off course, or feeling too overwhelmed to do anything. Does that happen to you? Or do you get distracted by the next new shiny business program or trainer, new curriculum, new eating plan and never do anything enough to see if it will work. Here is my tip to you from this week’s Bootcamp Message:

“Until you have tried something consistently for a period of time in a consistent way you have no idea if it works….. “

Consistency and sticking to it will allow you to gather enough data not only to see if something works but to solve problems too.

HOMEWORK THIS WEEK:

Pick one thing from one area you struggle in and do it consistently all week. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Health:
- Drink ________ oz of water every day.
- Walk 15 minutes everyday.
- Bring your lunch everyday this week.
- Diffuse and breathe in your favorite Essential oils 15 minutes a day.
Work/Business:
- Eat the Frog and do the one thing on your TO DO List that is the hardest.
- Set your work hours this week and stick to them.
Finances:
- Do a menu plan for the week and grocery shop those foods only.
- Skip getting coffee, sodas, or drinks this week.
- Have a budget meeting with your spouse or loved one this week.
Parenting or Homeschooling:
- Smile at your kids a lot this week even when they frustrate you.
- Encourage your kids 10 times more than you correct them.
- Speak words of LIFE over them daily… (even if those things are not true yet) YOU ARE BRILLIANT READER, YOU ARE SO KIND, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE GOING TO CHANGE THE WORLD, GOD MADE YOU SPECIAL

Now remember pick one thing… don’t overwhelm yourself. Just one DO-ABLE thing this week and let me know what it is in the comments.

RECIPE of the WEEK

If you follow me on Instagram drmarystarr you might be able to tell I like to cook. I do my best to cook healthier options and get my kids involved too. This week we had a epic Failure of gluten free Bananna Bread (which still got eaten) and an EPIC WIN.

Here is the WIN Recipe Video it’s a Delicious Egg Frittata (which is like a quiche without the crust)

The actual recipe and measurements will be in the Description of the Video. I used Chicken Sausage and it was great. Also go light on the Basil if you have kids, it’s a bit spicy!

Here is mine:

Spiritual Life

Lastly let’s talk about your Spiritual Life. How is yours? Do you have one just on the weekends but the rest of the week forget about it?

This Easter Sunday we went to our new church we finally decided on here in Silicon Valley. We have been attending regularly for about a month and God has really spoke wisdom to us each week. This week we were shoved into the pews as our church was maxed out with people. About 30% of those attending were here on this special and important Holiday. But I also felt something else in my spirit. I also felt that many are searching for something greater than themselves. In an area of the world where some of the smartest, wealthiest, and most successful people live these individuals are recognizing that they will never be enough. They will never have enough, be successful enough, give enough to be fulfilled. Because true Joy, PEACE and FULFILLMENT don’t come from our WORKS but from our Father in Heaven.

Are you searching for that Peace, Joy and Fulfillment in your life? What if I told you that all those are possible to have in your life no matter what your life circumstances are. It’s true… You might enjoy this message from the New Year by Steven Furtick http://elevationchurch.org/sermons/good-morning-midnight/

Word of God Weekly Verses

I would like to start learning a Bible Verse weekly because I know the power of these words especially when spoken and prayed. They give us life, protection, healing and so much more. Even when we don’t believe in our conscious minds yet for something like healing, peace, restoration just praying/saying the Words can change and ReNEW your mind, heart, and life. So here is this weeks. Print it out, write it on sticky notes, write it with dry erase markers on your mirrors.

This verse is said a lot of different ways depending on what version of the bible you read. I am going to keep things simple for me and my kids to remember. You do what is best for you.

“The Lord is my Strength, my Shield from every danger. I trust in Him with all my Heart”
Psalm 28:7 (NLT)

I pray that you have an amazing week, month and year. Until we talk again you are in my prayers. God bless you mightily;

Mary Starr Carter
The Total Wellness Doc and Mom

The Spirit of Offense

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David and caleah

I cried when I saw this picture of my new niece and her daddy. A new life in the world is so beautiful but God revealed something more to me when I looked at this picture that broke me.

See recently I have been slightly persecuted by friends, colleagues and even family for my over zealous “selling” of a program that changed my life. “Shut up already”, “I don’t want to hear about it”, “it’s not for me”, “it’s not the only good program out there”. Have you ever been rejected, called names, or even lost friendships over something you believed in strongly? It can hurt and it can shut you down.

Several years ago we had one interaction with a colleague that hurt my husband so badly that he literally quit that “selling” part of his job for many, many years. This person was irritated by what we were “selling” and verbally made it known. My husband was wounded and he allowed pride to take on a SPIRIT OF OFFENSE.

The Spirit of Offense is a tool by Satan to trap and hold you from all that God wants you to do and to be. It stops you from serving others, helping, or selling something you know is proven to change people’s lives. The words of one person shut him down from helping hundreds and probably thousands of people.

The Definition of Offenses: From the Greek “to put a stumbling block in the way, cause to be caught (or) fall away, be led into sin, offend, anger, shock”.

Offense is like an automatic weapon. Once you pull the trigger, it keeps firing. – Kathy DeGraw

Offense are seeds that once planted are fertilized by ego and pride and grow into some horrific weeds in our lives including fear, doubt, anger, resentment, distrust, and blanket opinions.

The reality is we are not going to stop offenses coming our way but we must know what to do when they do happen:

1. Recognize the seeds that was planted

2. Forgive right away: The harboring of unforgiveness in our lives can cut off our connections to the Holy Spirit and can delay God’s perfect plan for our lives.

3. Search your heart: Seeds of Offense can turn into deep roots that we may not even be conscious of. Searching your heart for areas of offense, unforgiveness, ego and pride can turn up these deep roots.

4. Turn to God’s Word: Ask God to reveal scripture, verses, or prayers to pray over these hidden GIANTS in your life. Ask Him to uproot these monsters with the Spirit of FORGIVENESS that He gave us and you freely give to others. “Forgive us our debts as we forgive others.”

5. Heal: In some cases you may find complete deliverance and freedom after an act of true forgiveness and other times healing will be a process.

After attending one of those programs I like to sell I found out I had been harboring some deep seeded anger and resentment against some leaders who crookedly embezzled a company I love. It had been 9 years and I thought I had forgiven them and moved on. But apparently I hadn’t and during this seminar God ordained an awakening to the fact that I hadn’t forgiven them.

When I truly forgave them this newfound freedom and lightness came over me and I still have it weeks later. Oddly I became more comfortable, outgoing, and self-assured in group settings too. It was really weird and showed me how unforgiveness and the Spirit of Offense can affect so many areas of our life.

Caleah

So back to my original story. See this picture of my brother in law and his beautiful family. When you watch the video below you will hear all the changes that happened for David after attending that program I “sell” too much. One of which was how God moved his heart from never wanting any more children to seeking God’s plan for his family. When this video was taken, little did we know that his beautiful wife Samantha was already pregnant.

The program is called First Steps to Success and recently my “selling” has caused some backlash to point where I considered backing down and not sharing so much. I have had a lot of opportunity for the Spirit of Offense to take hold of me… but I won’t let it. Because it’s not about me… it’s about the peoples’ lives that will be changed because I share.

No one leaves a First Steps to Success without being changed. They offer a full money back guarantee if you aren’t satisfied. So how about you? Are you ready to experience a change? Are you ready to learn more about things that are holding you back? I feel blessed if you made it to the end of the article and didn’t shut down or walk away from something that could literally transform your life like it did for David. Please consider it. I have 1 ticket left to the next First Steps to success training, and possibly the only ticket if it’s sold out by the time you read this. Give me a call 315-836-2014 ext. 1. Let’s learn and grow together.

God Bless you my friend,
Mary Starr Carter

A message from David

Skin time caleah and david

Caleah is such a blessing to us and we’re doing great (I guess after 4 babies you start to know what to do!). I attached a picture of her and I have our first skin on skin time last night 🙂 As I had everyone gathered around last night at the house for dinner I was recounting the story of how I was so against another child and Samantha’s longing for one.

Whenever people used to ask me about more children I was adamant that the only way we were having another child is if God himself changed my mind…. funny how God works isn’t it? So for the past 9 months I have been faithful to give God the glory and now I have an opportunity to explain how much God has done in my life and how he has changed me from the inside out to give me a heart for another little blessing.