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Your Health and Your Sex Life

Your Health and Your Sex Life

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

Sex within a healthy marriage is awesome and if you have a healthy marriage I don’t have to answer why…..

But the quality of your Sex Life can be a reflection of one or both spouse’s health. Here are some common myths when it comes to sex.

Myth: It is natural as we age for our libido to decrease

Actually this is not correct. If you examine some of the longest living cultures alive today they not only are enjoying sex in their later years but actually conceiving at 50 and 60 without any medical help.

A healthy male will have virility to his late years. And woman way past her sixties in many of these cultures.

What do these cultures have that we don’t in most modernized countries?

Clean Foods no processed foods or sugar.

Daily physical exercise from labor.

Cleansing or Fasting 30-100 days a year.

Nature’s unadulterated medicine.

A lot less Cortisol (stress hormone) raising Stress

In these cultures there are no cases of Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, or Digestive Diseases like Ulcerative Colitis and Crohn’s.

Myth: It is normal for an older male not be able to have an erection or ejaculation

This is incorrect. Certain diseases like Diabetes, Stenosis of the spinal cord (arthritis pushing on the spinal cord), Bulging discs on the spinal cord, and many medications can all cause issues with sexual performance.

As a Chiropractor I have to say that blockages in your nervous system the body’s Master System may be causing symptoms. Some older men have found regular Chiropractic adjustments very beneficial to their overall health.

Myth: Drugs can fix my “sex problems”

In the past two decades they have found many harmful and even fatal side effects of some common erectile dysfunction drugs.

Ironically the same drugs that are suppose to make us happy (Anti-depressants) have a common side effect of decreased libido. And don’t forget that alcohol and recreational drugs also will affect your sexual performance.

Even something as simple as a cholesterol medication can decrease the cholesterol needed to produce hormones that give us our sex drive.

So if you are having trouble investigate these things first before turning to medications.

Myth: What I eat has no effect on my sexual performance?

This is incorrect, especially if you are trying to have a baby. Men who eat a junk food diet filled with high saturated fats, sugar, and sodas like Mountain DoDo have been found to have a lower motility and sperm count. Over time these things lead to stressed out organs, nervous system, and hormonal system resulting in dis-ease like Diabetes.

NingXia Red is just a highly concentrated fruit drink that is extremely safe for all ages and health conditions. There is no caffeine or herbs in it just nature’s medicine fruits that help to re-build the body. After 6 weeks of 6 oz a day most every person I talk to comments how ALIVE they feel & how much VITALITY they feel. If you would like to know more about NingXia Red go to http://www.starrhealth.myningxia.com/

Myth: Exercise will reduce my Sex Drive

Exercise is an important part of your health and can increase your libido by increasing the Happy Hormones in your body as well as specific hormones that help keep you young.

If you overtrain you can decrease your oomph by stressing the adrenal glands which are an important part of your endocrine hormone system. One great tip for Exercisers is to drink an ounce of NingXia Red in 8 oz of water while you exercise and make sure your body is getting enough minerals, B vitamins, and Fish oils.

This is just a glimpse at what Nutrition and Exercise can do your Sex Life. But here is my Bonus and Advice for those who want it don’t feel you have to take it.

As a spouse who has been through marriage training and individual counseling I would have to say the most effective training we had as a couple was www.firststepstosuccess.com

It may seem weird that we went to a business training to get
our marriage straight but it ended up like that. I tell every person I know that this is where I learned to be a good listener and wife. To honor my husband and build a foundation of success. I won’t comment on my sex life in honor of my husband, but I will end by saying some of the best things you can do for your marriage and sex life happen outside the bedroom.

Let us know what you think. Please comment below. Be tasteful and respectful.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health. She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease. She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

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Foundations of your Health Success

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Foundations of Success

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

Foundations of Success in our health come from small steps toward a future goal. Once we have reached that goal we must take daily actions to maintain our success.

Sounds simple enough right?! Success in most things can be simple but not easy. If it were easy we would have a majority population of fit, healthy and wealthy individuals.

When it comes to Health Success Foundations, the best examples come from the world's top Athletes. The top three foundations of their success are Habits, Routines and Self Discipline.

Let's be real and ask ourselves the following questions:

What Habits do I have that are good for my health?

What Habits do I have or don't have that are destructive to my health?

What Routines are health promoting for me?

What Routines are healthy for my family?

What areas of my life am I disciplined in a positive way?

What areas of my life do I need self discipline?

No one is perfect, that is not what this is about. It is about looking at ourselves honestly and giving ourself praise for what we do do good and get real with what we aren't.

Some of may be feeling like you don't even know the answers to these questions. You may need another set of eyes to help you see the positive in your life and areas you need to improve.

Let me suggest a 30 minute Wellness Coaching Session to help you Begin on the Road to Health. Click here for more info: http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/wellness-coaching

Routine: Every person and family will have a different routine, but routines are a foundation of success. What time do you wake up, go to bed, when do you study, when do you eat, how often do you eat….. and the list goes on.

When it comes to your health having a routine of food and fitness is important. But so is having some weekly or even daily me time, fun time, family time, couple time, and God time.

I learned having a routine for my children is extremely important to their health. Starting when they are an infant.

What routines are best for you? What routine do you think you might want to test out for the next few weeks to see if it is a fit for you? What routines are you ready to implement?

Habits: In Stephen Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People his 7th Habit includes Sharpening the Saw. This means preserving and enhancing the best asset you have YOU.

There are many Health Habits we can adopt including:

Drinking 1/2 our body weight in oz of water per day

Exercising daily

Speaking Kindness and Love over our body and about ourselves

What are some Healthy habits you can adopt to Sharpen your Saw?

They say it takes 21 days to set a habit. I agree and suggest to my clients to start with a 30 day goal. This leaves room for rest days and other things that might come up in our lives.

Habits and Routines all have 1 thing in common….. they all need

Self Discipline otherwise known as Self Control.

Self Control: Self Discipline and Self Control may be hard words to hear. When we think of the word discipline some of us might cringe or want to run away because of harsh upbringing or perfection standards.

I see clients who lack these foundations most of the time and then I also see clients who take this concept to the extreme thinking that perfection will come from strick standards on self. Both of these concepts can cause Physical and Emotional issues.

I want to leave you with a different picture of Self Control. This belief is my belief and although you don't have to agree I hope you will be open enough to just think about it.

In the Bible it clearly states that Self Control is a gift of the Holy Spirit to us. A gift to overcome our fleshy unmotivated and sometimes gluttonous bodies. Did you ever think about praying to God to help you overcome Food Addictions, the lack of motivation to exercise, even to help you to wake up at 5am and feel rested.

Really Dr. Mary? Yes I have seen it in my own life and many others. Simple things like feeling fully rested on a few hours sleep to miraculous things where clients have radically been delivered from addiction of alcohol, drugs or even sugar. It is real. God can do all things we just have to ASK and BELIEVE!

Please share with us your comments about this article in the comment section in the bottom of this page.

Tips for Staying Sane When Kids Leave For College

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Editor's note:
Today my heart is hurting for several of my clients. This weekend they will become empty nesters saying goodbye to all their children as they go off to college. One amazing single mom has raised her three girls for the past 25 years. She, like many others is struggling through terrible grief. Today's article shares some strategies that will help many parents deal with that sadness. Written by my friend and colleague Jeannette Webb of Aiming Higher Consultants she knows your pain personally and has helped hundreds of parents and college bound children navigate the college admissions process.

Tips for Staying Sane When Kids Leave For College

By Jeannette Webb

While much of the world seems eager for their kids to grow up and get out of the house, I haven't found that to be the case for the families I know and work with. In fact, many parents fight valiantly to ignore the ache in their heart that reaches a crescendo when their child leaves home for college. It's not something many people talk about and even though we know it's going to be difficult, the utter desolation can threaten to overwhelm a parent when the day finally comes.

I was totally unprepared for the depth of my grief when my oldest left home.

Fortunately, I had a dear friend ahead of me on the journey and she shared some strategies that made things bearable.

1. Make some physical changes

There are many ways to implement this, but let me give you an example. Families who are close usually place a high priority on sharing meals together. That is a wonderful habit that can cause great pain when there is an empty place at the table. My friend told me firmly to get rid of that empty space.

Since, we are a family of four and dine at a round table that just fits us, I moved from my usual seat and sat in my son's seat and placed a centerpiece in my old spot. I removed his chair to storage. It totally changed my vantage point and I wasn't seeing his empty place or his unoccupied chair.

When my daughter left home, I shoved the table up against the wall, moved her chair to storage and set out two placemats at the two remaining chairs with a centerpiece in the center.

2. Remove reminders

Sometimes it's the little things that can bring tears. I realized, after crying a few times in the shower, that my daughter's shampoo and other "shower stuff" was still in place even though she wasn't. I took it all out and stored it out of sight in a cabinet where it would be waiting for her return.

I kept catching sight of my gloomy self in the large mirror she uses for violin practice in the living room. It got moved to her bedroom and no longer serves as a reminder that she isn't there practicing.

3. Stay interruptible

Life stays busy even after kids leave home, but it is imperative that you stay available for them. Our kids are going through an even greater adjustment than we are and if we are too busy to talk when they call, they will eventually quit calling at all. My kids and I have grown even closer through their college years because I made it my priority to be there for them as they were navigating new things. We've laughed and cried, shared successes and failure, and tightened the family bond while the cell phone minutes ticked away. Trust me, it's worth the expense to avoid the consequences. I've talked with moms who didn't make the time to be present for their young adults and then they couldn't figure out why the kid got into trouble at college.

4. Talk to people

Most parents going through the pain of kids leaving home assume they are the only ones suffering and so stay silent. I recently had a conversation with an old friend and we discovered that we'd both battled tremendous grief over our children leaving home and had gone through it alone. If we'd opened up, we could have planned special get-togethers to laugh over our high school pranks, go shopping, or anything to make it through. But we wouldn't have had to face things alone.

If you are facing the empty nest this year, take steps to make life more bearable. If you have friends who are facing it (even though you are not), invite them to lunch, give them reasons to laugh, and be there for them. There is a reason Christians are instructed to do life together with other believers.

Editor's recommendation to reduce stress:

In addition I have to add that inhaling Young Living Essential oils like Citrus Fresh, Stress Away, Sacred Frankincense, Joy and Valor 10 or more times a day can give you a great sense of peace.

Let us know what your thoughts. Please leave a comment in the comment section below.

Jeannette Webb is the founder of Aiming Higher Consultants, a firm dedicated to helping Christian students gain admission to great colleges. She has a heart for assisting parents as they train their children for excellence. Jeannette works to empower families to make thoughtful choices for their younger children, to confidently navigate the difficult high school years, and then ace the college admissions process. If you liked today's issue, you'll love her personalized consulting services that help you map out a holistic plan for your student. While Jeannette is best known for her clear-sighted counseling, her clients feel that her biggest gift to their family was permission to be themselves.

What is your Biggest Setback to Losing Weight?

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WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST

SETBACK TO LOSING WEIGHT?

By Dr. Mary Starr Carter

Recently we surveyed over 50 women who struggle or have struggled with weight loss. All types of women responded to our Question including young women in their 20's to women in their 70's. Moms of eight children, woman Business owners and even some actresses and singers. Their responses were genuine and awakening. Read on and see if you agree. I think some of the answers will shock you.

Food: Over 25% of the women surveyed named food as a specific reason why they couldn't release the weight.

I love food Sugar chips chocolate

I enjoy food alcohol portion control

Milk Chocolate and Southern Cooking

Environment. It is more difficult to stay on track when surrounded by those who are not on the same eating plan. Family meal times- cooking 2 different meals all the time. when society all around you- bombarded by messages that do not coincide with your own decision to eat healthy. Not just eating at a restaurant, but ANY social event often involves food. To stay on track- I must plan, plan, plan ahead and bring something of your own to share, or eat well before I go out!

My response : Yes food is a culprit in the majority of weight release and maintenance. Many individuals can go on diets like South Beach, the HcG diet, Medi-Fast and lose the weight. But unless followed by a maintenance plan or an actual change in their lifestyle when it comes to food, including portions, they will gain the weight back slowly or rapidly.

Also many woman with thyroid insufficiency or digestive issues will need specific nutritional supplementation to even take off 5lbs. We discuss more details at http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/thyroid-dysfunction

Exercise: 25% of those surveyed said lack of exercise was contributing to their weight problem.

I'm in too much pain to exercise I sit all day on my job.

Not enough exercise

I do go to the gym but not as often as I should.

My response: Yes for Total Wellness we must exercise. Most programs that only address food will work better and help create lasting results with exercise. But there is a catch. The type of exercise you do is very important.

For pain clients must start with something that they can do. Swimming is ideal even though chlorinated pools are not so good for the thyroid gland and can hinder weight release. (We give specifics of how to fight chlorine in our 5-20lbs Weight loss Webinar http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/thyroid-dysfunction)

But let me share something specific for those of you exercising and can't seem to lose weight. #1 Make sure you are not going over your calorie ceiling. A great resource for this is Spark People . On that website you can create a weight release goal and it can calculate your calorie limits for the day. Then you just enter them in. Most smart phones will allow you to download this app for free and it makes it much easier to keep track.

#2 For optimal weight release and TOTAL WELLNESS you must exercise Aerobically 30 minutes or more 3 times a week. The best weight loss aerobic exercises uses interval training to your max if you have been okayed by your doc to do so. In addition you also must strength train 30 minutes or more 3 times a week as well. As I have stated before Chalene Extreme is my favorite program for incorporating both the Aerobic and Strength Training necessary to release the weight. ( I have to brag I already released 13% body fat.)

Will Power, Energy and I'm to busy : About another 15% named Will Power, lack of energy or I'm too busy as why they were struggling.

I also have a problem with finding that "will power".

Staying in "the zone" for a length of time. A big trigger with this is getting too busy to prepare healthy meals consistently and then making excuses why no time exercise

Willpower (sugar) Energy and great attitude!

I can eat well in relatively good portions – but can't seem to get the energy up to exercise.

My response: Lack of energy could be the result of something else going on in the body like lack of a specific nutrition need, a thyroid issue, or toxic liver.

Great mentors taught me the following quotes :

There are reasons and results and the reasons don't matter.

Excuses are well planned lies.

We all have excuses of why we can't. But for every excuse you give me I can show you someone in your same exact situation or worse who can. What is the difference? One makes the choice, action and commitment to change the other stays stuck. Sorry, but let's get real. You don't because you don't, not because the kids take up all your time, you don't have the money, you don't have the time. There are solutions to everything including low energy, no time, and no desire. I wrote an article called Support Systems that can help you see some situations that might help you find solutions thought support and delegation. Make the choice. I know you can do it. Remember we will all fall off the wagon, have good weeks and bad, but if you keep with it you raise yourself to an amazing level of Total Wellness.

Emotions, Self Image, Self Esteem, Body Image

this category was mentioned by more than 60% of the women polled.

my emotions, I eat for every one of them and I am emotional!

I am constantly calling myself fat. I know my self esteem is my biggest block.

holding onto past thoughts, ideas, beliefs. Also weight is a safety net.

changing my body image, the way I think about myself.

My Biggest challenge: Is always the fluctuation in self esteem that effects the drive to loose weight and therefore setting back progress or accelerating it… When the weight is gone: I'm happy and happy with myself … (sad but true) I have recently come to this conclusion and started focusing on my self esteem instead 🙂 which effects my weight naturally

My response: WOW!!! I can't add more to this than those responses. Working with hundreds of clients I see this all to often where we will make progress with a client and then they plateau or fall back. Until they are willing to break through past hurts, junk in the trunk, release anger or pain, and embrace forgiveness healing and weight release stop happening.

Lastly I would like to share this comment from a woman who has recently addressed the emotional and spiritual blocks in her life and released 20lbs.

"When a person is ready to let go of the emotional and spiritual blocks in their lives, the weight will go away, they will want to get up and move and the will have energy and health and well being. After much time and effort and willingness of spirit I can say now I am ready to achieve and live my most healthy life."

Interesting how she and many others will have the weight just FALL OFF when they address Emotional and Spiritual roots. Emotional pain can be obvious or not, but many times Spiritual Injury is overlooked. We are Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual beings. My opinion is God made us that way and it is foolish to think that we can have lasting weight release, Total Wellness, and healing without addressing all three.

This my friend Rachel Jones before and after addressing all three components is finding weight release, Total Wellness and happiness.

I pray that you will make the choice to look your biggest challenge in the face and ATTACK.

To know more about Rachel's story and many more go to www.http://www.thetotalwellnessdoc.com/thyroid-dysfunction

Let us know what your biggest set back to weight release is. Please leave a comment in the comment section below.

Dr. Mary Starr Carter has worked with thousands of clients from terminally ill and chronic diseases to those who are healthy and want vibrant health. She has counseled hundreds of families who had given up hope find simple safe solutions. Known as the Total Wellness Doc she looks at all aspects of health to help someone overcome disease. She specializes in difficult cases like Fibromyalgia, Hormone and Adrenal issues, Asthma, Diabetes and Chronic pain.

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